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Making a New Friend

Third graders learn that making a new friend follows friendly steps anyone can practice, from a smile and a hello to finding something in common, and put the steps in order.

Grade 3CASEL: Relationship Skills45 minutes1 class periodCASELExplicit teaching4 StandardsCASEL
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Lesson at a Glance

Everything you need before the bell rings

Learning Objectives

Students will be able to…

  • ✓Start with a friendly hello.
  • ✓Ask and listen.
  • ✓Find common ground.
  • ✓Invite them to join.
Essential Question

Someone new is standing alone at recess, and you would like to be their friend. What friendly steps can turn a hello into a new friendship?

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Order the Steps · Interactive

Order the Steps

Project this and put the steps for making a new friend in order — tap each step from saying hello to inviting them to join.

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The Lesson · SEL Flow (Check-In · Learn · Practice · Apply · Reflect)

45 minutes, five moves

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1

Hook — The New Kid

5 min

Someone new is standing alone at recess, and you would like to be their friend. What is the very first thing you could do?

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Set the scene.
  • Ask for a first move.
  • Set the goal.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Think.
  • Share.
  • Get ready.
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Use — Order the Steps

12 min

Students put the friend-making steps in order.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Send students to Order the Steps.
  • Order the steps.
  • Name each one.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Order.
  • Say.
  • Note it.
3

Modify — Say It Out Loud

13 min

Students practice the words.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Pick a step.
  • Say the words you would use.
  • Try a friendly tone.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Pick.
  • Say.
  • Try.
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Create — Friend-Making Plan

15 min

Students plan a real first move.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Name someone you could get to know.
  • Pick a friendly question.
  • Decide when to try it.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Name.
  • Pick.
  • Decide.
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Reflect — First Moves

5 min

Students reflect on making friends.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • What is a good first step to make a friend?
  • Why does listening matter?
  • Complete the exit ticket.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Say it.
  • Say it.
  • Complete the exit ticket.
Standards Alignment

Built to the standards you report on

Aligned to the CASEL Framework for Social and Emotional Learning across its five core competencies.

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Relationship Skills

Initiate contact and start a conversation with someone new.

CASEL
Relationship Skills

Use active listening to build a connection.

CASEL
Social Awareness

Notice when someone could use a friend.

CASEL
Relationship Skills

Find common ground and extend an invitation.

Differentiation

One lesson, every learner

Multilingual Learners

ELL / EMERGING READERS
  • Step picture cards.
  • Sentence frame: “First I ___ , then I ___ .”
  • Order two steps at a time.

Support & Access

IEP / 504
  • Start with saying hi.
  • Walk through the steps together.
  • Add one step at a time.

Stretch & Extend

GIFTED / EARLY FINISHERS
  • Role-play the whole sequence with a partner.
  • Handle a shy or unsure response.
  • Discuss keeping a friendship going.
Materials

What to gather

  • 📽️Projector / board
  • 🖼️Step picture cards
  • 💻Order the Steps
  • 🎭Role-play prompts
  • ✏️Pencils
  • 🎫Exit-ticket slips
Vocabulary

Key terms — hover for a quick definition

friendshipa caring connection between two people who enjoy each otherrelationship skillsthe skills for making and keeping good connectionsgreetinga friendly hello that opens a conversationactive listeningreally paying attention to what someone sayscommon groundsomething two people share or both enjoyinvitationasking someone to join you in somethingkindnesstreating someone with warmth and careconversationa back-and-forth talk between people
Evaluate

Exit Ticket

Preview the three formative checks. Tap “Sample answer” to see what mastery looks like — hide them before you print for students.

QUESTION 1
What is a good first step to make a friend?
Walk up and say hi with a smile, which opens the door to a conversation.
QUESTION 2
Why does listening matter when making a friend?
Listening shows you care and helps you find things you both like.
QUESTION 3
What is common ground, and why does it help?
Something you both enjoy; it gives you something to do and talk about together.

Create: a friend-making plan.

Have students name someone they could get to know, pick a friendly question to ask, and decide when to try it, so the first move feels doable. A printable making-friends worksheet is in the Social-Emotional Learning library.

Study · Flashcards

Study the key terms

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Practice · Quiz

Check your understanding

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Practice · Worksheet

Printable worksheet

A print-and-go review sheet with a built-in answer key. Tap “Show answer key” to reveal answers, or print the clean version for students.

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Date: ____________

Part A · Write the word that matches each meaning

Word bank: active listening, common ground, conversation, friendship, greeting, invitation, kindness, relationship skills
  1. really paying attention to what someone says
  2. something two people share or both enjoy
  3. treating someone with warmth and care
  4. a back-and-forth talk between people
  5. a friendly hello that opens a conversation
  6. asking someone to join you in something
  7. a caring connection between two people who enjoy each other
  8. the skills for making and keeping good connections

Part B · Show what you learned

  1. What is a good first step to make a friend?
  2. Why does listening matter when making a friend?
  3. What is common ground, and why does it help?
Answer key — Part A: 1) active listening · 2) common ground · 3) kindness · 4) conversation · 5) greeting · 6) invitation · 7) friendship · 8) relationship skills
Part B: 1) Walk up and say hi with a smile, which opens the door to a conversation. 2) Listening shows you care and helps you find things you both like. 3) Something you both enjoy; it gives you something to do and talk about together.