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Keeping Your Promises

Fourth graders learn that keeping your word is how people come to trust you, and walk through the steps of making and keeping a promise the right way, in order.

Grade 4CASEL: Responsible Decision-Making45 minutes1 class periodCASELExplicit teaching4 StandardsCASEL
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Lesson at a Glance

Everything you need before the bell rings

Learning Objectives

Students will be able to…

  • ✓Think before you promise.
  • ✓Say yes only if you can.
  • ✓Follow through.
  • ✓Order the steps.
Essential Question

Keep a promise and people learn they can count on you; break one and that trust chips away. What are the steps to making a promise you can truly keep?

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Order the Steps · Interactive

Order the Steps

Project this and put the steps of making and keeping a promise in order — tap each one from thinking first to following through.

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The Lesson · SEL Flow (Check-In · Learn · Practice · Apply · Reflect)

45 minutes, five moves

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1

Hook — Only Promise What You Can Keep

5 min

When you promise something and keep it, people learn they can count on you. Break a promise and that trust chips away. So what are the steps to making a promise you can actually keep?

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Ask about a kept promise.
  • Ask how it felt to be trusted.
  • Set the goal.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Think.
  • Share.
  • Get ready.
2

Use — Order the Steps

12 min

Students put the promise-keeping steps in order.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Send students to Order the Steps.
  • Order the steps.
  • Name each one.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Order.
  • Say.
  • Note it.
3

Modify — Can I Really Do It?

13 min

Students test a promise before making it.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Name a promise someone might make.
  • Ask if they can really keep it.
  • Say yes, no, or not sure.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Name.
  • Ask.
  • Say.
4

Create — My Promise Plan

15 min

Students plan to keep a promise.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Write one promise you can keep.
  • List the steps to follow through.
  • Say what to do if plans change.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Write.
  • List.
  • Say.
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Reflect — Keeping Your Word

5 min

Students reflect on promises.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Why should you think before you promise?
  • What should you do if you cannot keep a promise after all?
  • Complete the exit ticket.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Say it.
  • Say it.
  • Complete the exit ticket.
Standards Alignment

Built to the standards you report on

Aligned to the CASEL Framework for Social and Emotional Learning across its five core competencies.

CASEL
Responsible Decision-Making

Consider whether you can follow through before you commit.

CASEL
Responsible Decision-Making

Follow through on commitments and take responsibility.

CASEL
Relationship Skills

Build trust by keeping your word to others.

CASEL
Self-Management

Remember and act on a commitment over time.

Differentiation

One lesson, every learner

Multilingual Learners

ELL / EMERGING READERS
  • Step picture cards.
  • Sentence frame: “First ___ , then ___ .”
  • Order two steps at a time.

Support & Access

IEP / 504
  • Start with thinking before you say yes.
  • Act out one promise together.
  • Add one step at a time.

Stretch & Extend

GIFTED / EARLY FINISHERS
  • Sort promises into keepable and not.
  • Discuss why honesty matters when plans change.
  • Connect keeping promises to building a reputation.
Materials

What to gather

  • 📽️Projector / board
  • 🤝Promise-step cards
  • 💻Order the Steps
  • 📝A promise-plan card
  • ✏️Pencils
  • 🎫Exit-ticket slips
Vocabulary

Key terms — hover for a quick definition

promisea commitment to do something you say you will doresponsible decision-makingmaking choices you can stand behindtrustthe belief that someone will do what they saycommitmentsomething you have agreed to dofollow throughto finish what you said you would doreliablesomeone others can count onhonesttelling the truth, including when plans changeaccountableowning your choices and what you agreed to
Evaluate

Exit Ticket

Preview the three formative checks. Tap “Sample answer” to see what mastery looks like — hide them before you print for students.

QUESTION 1
Why should you think before you make a promise?
Because a promise is only worth making if you can actually keep it; saying yes to something you cannot do breaks trust.
QUESTION 2
What should you do if you cannot keep a promise after all?
Tell the person as soon as you can, honestly, instead of just letting them down without a word.
QUESTION 3
How does keeping your promises affect trust?
Each kept promise builds trust, so people learn they can count on you; broken promises chip that trust away.

Create: my promise plan.

Have students write one promise they can keep, list the steps to follow through, and say what to do if plans change, so keeping their word becomes a habit. A printable keeping-promises worksheet is in the Social-Emotional Learning library.

Study · Flashcards

Study the key terms

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Practice · Worksheet

Printable worksheet

A print-and-go review sheet with a built-in answer key. Tap “Show answer key” to reveal answers, or print the clean version for students.

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Part A · Write the word that matches each meaning

Word bank: accountable, commitment, follow through, honest, promise, reliable, responsible decision-making, trust
  1. something you have agreed to do
  2. to finish what you said you would do
  3. telling the truth, including when plans change
  4. owning your choices and what you agreed to
  5. the belief that someone will do what they say
  6. someone others can count on
  7. a commitment to do something you say you will do
  8. making choices you can stand behind

Part B · Show what you learned

  1. Why should you think before you make a promise?
  2. What should you do if you cannot keep a promise after all?
  3. How does keeping your promises affect trust?
Answer key — Part A: 1) commitment · 2) follow through · 3) honest · 4) accountable · 5) trust · 6) reliable · 7) promise · 8) responsible decision-making
Part B: 1) Because a promise is only worth making if you can actually keep it; saying yes to something you cannot do breaks trust. 2) Tell the person as soon as you can, honestly, instead of just letting them down without a word. 3) Each kept promise builds trust, so people learn they can count on you; broken promises chip that trust away.