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Resolving Conflicts

Fifth graders learn that how you respond in a disagreement can cool it down or heat it up, and sort real conflict responses into the ones that help and the ones that make things worse.

Grade 5CASEL: Relationship Skills40 minutes1 class periodCASELExplicit teaching4 StandardsCASEL
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Lesson at a Glance

Everything you need before the bell rings

Learning Objectives

Students will be able to…

  • ✓Spot calming responses.
  • ✓Spot escalating ones.
  • ✓Choose a fair fix.
  • ✓Sort each response.
Essential Question

In a disagreement, the first thing you say can cool it down or blow it up. What makes a response calm a conflict instead of making it worse?

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Interactive Task
Sort the Responses · Interactive

Sort the Responses

Project this and sort each response into calms it down or makes it worse — tap a response, then tap where it belongs.

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🔥 Makes it worse
Tap a response, then tap whether it helps calm a conflict or makes it worse.
The Lesson · SEL Flow (Check-In · Learn · Practice · Apply · Reflect)

40 minutes, five moves

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1

Hook — Cool It or Heat It

5 min

In a disagreement, the very first thing you say can calm it down or blow it up. What makes the difference?

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Show a tense moment.
  • Ask what helps.
  • Set the goal.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Think.
  • Share.
  • Get ready.
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Use — Sort the Responses

12 min

Students sort responses as calming or escalating.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Send students to Sort the Responses.
  • Drop each response.
  • Explain each choice.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Sort.
  • Say.
  • Explain.
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Modify — Flip the Response

13 min

Students turn an escalating response calm.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Pick a makes-it-worse response.
  • Rewrite it as a calming one.
  • Explain the change.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Pick.
  • Rewrite.
  • Explain.
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Create — Peace Steps

15 min

Students plan a fair fix.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Recall a small conflict.
  • List calming steps to solve it.
  • Name a fair solution.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Recall.
  • List.
  • Name.
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Reflect — Working It Out

5 min

Students reflect on resolving conflicts.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Name one response that calms a conflict.
  • Why does listening help?
  • Complete the exit ticket.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Say it.
  • Say it.
  • Complete the exit ticket.
Standards Alignment

Built to the standards you report on

Aligned to the CASEL Framework for Social and Emotional Learning across its five core competencies.

CASEL
Relationship Skills

Use constructive strategies to resolve conflicts.

CASEL
Relationship Skills

Communicate clearly and listen actively during disagreements.

CASEL
Social Awareness

Consider the other person's feelings in a conflict.

CASEL
Responsible Decision-Making

Seek fair solutions that work for everyone.

Differentiation

One lesson, every learner

Multilingual Learners

ELL / EMERGING READERS
  • Response cards with icons.
  • Sentence frame: “___ calms it / makes it worse.”
  • Sort two responses at a time.

Support & Access

IEP / 504
  • Start with clear calming responses.
  • Role-play one calm response.
  • Sort calming responses fully first.

Stretch & Extend

GIFTED / EARLY FINISHERS
  • Rewrite three escalating responses as calm ones.
  • Practice an I-statement.
  • Mediate a classmates' mock conflict.
Materials

What to gather

  • 📽️Projector / board
  • 🖼️Response cards
  • 💻Sort the Responses
  • 🎭Conflict role-play prompts
  • ✏️Pencils
  • 🎫Exit-ticket slips
Vocabulary

Key terms — hover for a quick definition

conflicta disagreement or clash between peopleresolveto settle a conflict in a workable wayrelationship skillsthe skills for getting along and working with otherscompromisea solution where each side gives a littleescalateto make a conflict bigger or more heatedde-escalateto calm a conflict downactive listeningreally paying attention to what someone saysfair solutionan outcome that works for everyone involved
Evaluate

Exit Ticket

Preview the three formative checks. Tap “Sample answer” to see what mastery looks like — hide them before you print for students.

QUESTION 1
Name one response that calms a conflict.
For example, listening, using a calm voice, taking a breath, or looking for a fair solution.
QUESTION 2
Name one response that makes a conflict worse.
For example, yelling, name-calling, interrupting, or refusing to listen.
QUESTION 3
Why does listening help resolve a conflict?
It shows respect and helps you understand what the other person needs, which makes a fair solution easier.

Create: peace steps.

Have students recall a small conflict, list calming steps to solve it, and name a fair solution, so resolving conflict becomes a plan they can use. A printable conflict-resolution worksheet is in the Social-Emotional Learning library.

Study · Flashcards

Study the key terms

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Practice · Quiz

Check your understanding

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Practice · Worksheet

Printable worksheet

A print-and-go review sheet with a built-in answer key. Tap “Show answer key” to reveal answers, or print the clean version for students.

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Date: ____________

Part A · Write the word that matches each meaning

Word bank: active listening, compromise, conflict, de-escalate, escalate, fair solution, relationship skills, resolve
  1. a solution where each side gives a little
  2. to make a conflict bigger or more heated
  3. really paying attention to what someone says
  4. an outcome that works for everyone involved
  5. the skills for getting along and working with others
  6. to calm a conflict down
  7. a disagreement or clash between people
  8. to settle a conflict in a workable way

Part B · Show what you learned

  1. Name one response that calms a conflict.
  2. Name one response that makes a conflict worse.
  3. Why does listening help resolve a conflict?
Answer key — Part A: 1) compromise · 2) escalate · 3) active listening · 4) fair solution · 5) relationship skills · 6) de-escalate · 7) conflict · 8) resolve
Part B: 1) For example, listening, using a calm voice, taking a breath, or looking for a fair solution. 2) For example, yelling, name-calling, interrupting, or refusing to listen. 3) It shows respect and helps you understand what the other person needs, which makes a fair solution easier.