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Self-Control

Fifth graders build self-management by practicing self-control — stopping before they act, breathing, thinking about what might happen, and choosing a good action. It puts them in charge of their choices. They order the steps, then practice with a scenario.

Grade 5Self-Control35 minutes1 class periodCASELExplicit teaching4 StandardsCASEL
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Lesson at a Glance

Everything you need before the bell rings

Learning Objectives

Students will be able to…

  • ✓Use self-control.
  • ✓Stop and breathe.
  • ✓Think first.
  • ✓Choose well.
Essential Question

How can you stay in charge when you feel a strong urge?

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Interactive Task
Put in Order · Interactive

Order the Self-Control Steps

Project this and have students put the self-control steps in order.

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Tap the first step when you feel a strong urge!
The Lesson · Explicit teaching

35 minutes, five moves

Tap any phase to open the teacher moves and student actions.

1

Check-In — Strong Urges

4 min

Have you ever wanted to do something before thinking?

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Ask the question.
  • Share ideas.
  • Set the goal.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Think.
  • Share.
  • Get ready.
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Learn — Self-Control

9 min

Students learn.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Send students to Order the Self-Control Steps.
  • Order the steps.
  • Note stop before you act.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Order.
  • Say.
  • Note it.
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Practice — Practice

11 min

Students practice.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Hear a scenario.
  • Practice "stop and breathe."
  • Name a good choice.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Hear.
  • Breathe.
  • Choose.
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Apply — Apply

7 min

Students apply.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Act out stopping & thinking.
  • Choose a good action.
  • Name when to use it.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Act.
  • Choose.
  • Name.
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Reflect — Reflect

4 min

Students close.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • What do you do first?
  • Why breathe?
  • Complete the exit ticket.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Say it.
  • Say it.
  • Complete the exit ticket.
Standards Alignment

Built to the standards you report on

Aligned to the CASEL Framework for Social and Emotional Learning across its five core competencies.

CASEL
Self-Management

Demonstrate impulse control.

CASEL
Self-Management

Pause and choose a response.

CASEL
Self-Awareness

Notice urges and feelings.

CASEL
Responsible Decision-Making

Think before acting.

Differentiation

One lesson, every learner

Multilingual Learners

ELL / EMERGING READERS
  • Step cards with pictures.
  • Frame: "first I stop, then ___."
  • Practice breathing.

Support & Access

IEP / 504
  • Use stop & breathe.
  • Practice one breath.
  • Use a visual cue.

Stretch & Extend

GIFTED / EARLY FINISHERS
  • Make a self-control plan.
  • Practice in a game.
  • Help a friend stay calm.
Materials

What to gather

  • 📽️Screen / board
  • ✋Self-control cards
  • 💻Order the Self-Control Steps
  • 📋Scenario cards
  • 📓Notebooks
  • 🎫Exit-ticket slips
Vocabulary

Key terms — hover for a quick definition

self-controlmanaging your actionsurgea sudden want to do somethingstoppause before actingbreathetake a slow breaththinkconsider what might happenchoosepick a good actioncalmsettled and in controlin chargeyou decide your action
Evaluate

Exit Ticket

Preview the three formative checks. Tap “Sample answer” to see what mastery looks like — hide them before you print for students.

QUESTION 1
What is the first self-control step?
Stop before you act.
QUESTION 2
Why take a deep breath?
It helps you calm down and think.
QUESTION 3
What do you do after thinking?
Choose a good action.

Reflect: self-control.

Have students act out stopping and thinking before choosing. A printable scenario sheet is in the SEL library.

Study · Flashcards

Study the key terms

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Practice · Quiz

Check your understanding

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Practice · Worksheet

Printable worksheet

A print-and-go review sheet with a built-in answer key. Tap “Show answer key” to reveal answers, or print the clean version for students.

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Date: ____________

Part A · Write the word that matches each meaning

Word bank: breathe, calm, choose, in charge, self-control, stop, think, urge
  1. pick a good action
  2. pause before acting
  3. consider what might happen
  4. take a slow breath
  5. you decide your action
  6. managing your actions
  7. settled and in control
  8. a sudden want to do something

Part B · Show what you learned

  1. What is the first self-control step?
  2. Why take a deep breath?
  3. What do you do after thinking?
Answer key — Part A: 1) choose · 2) stop · 3) think · 4) breathe · 5) in charge · 6) self-control · 7) calm · 8) urge
Part B: 1) Stop before you act. 2) It helps you calm down and think. 3) Choose a good action.