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Communicating Clearly

Sixth graders learn that clear communication is a skill, not luck, built from saying what you mean, owning your feelings with I-statements, and checking that you were understood, then check what they know.

Grade 6CASEL: Relationship Skills45 minutes1 class periodCASELExplicit teaching4 StandardsCASEL
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Lesson at a Glance

Everything you need before the bell rings

Learning Objectives

Students will be able to…

  • ✓Say what you mean.
  • ✓Use I-statements.
  • ✓Check for understanding.
  • ✓Check what you know.
Essential Question

You say one thing but your friend hears another, and now there is a misunderstanding. What makes a message come across the way you actually meant it?

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Interactive Task
Communication Check · Interactive

Communication Check

Project this and answer each question about getting your message across clearly and kindly — read the explanation after each one.

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The Lesson · SEL Flow (Check-In · Learn · Practice · Apply · Reflect)

45 minutes, five moves

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1

Hook — Said and Heard

5 min

You say one thing, but your friend hears another, and now there is a misunderstanding. Clear communication closes that gap. What makes a message come across the way you meant it?

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Show a mix-up.
  • Ask what went wrong.
  • Set the goal.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Think.
  • Share.
  • Get ready.
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Use — Communication Check

12 min

Students answer questions about clear communication.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Send students to the Communication Check.
  • Answer each question.
  • Read the why.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Answer.
  • Check.
  • Read it.
3

Modify — Make It Clear

13 min

Students rewrite an unclear message.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Read a vague or blaming message.
  • Spot the problem.
  • Rewrite it clearly.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Read.
  • Spot.
  • Rewrite.
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Create — My I-Statements

15 min

Students write I-statements.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Think of a real situation.
  • Write an I-statement for it.
  • Add how you would check you were understood.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Think.
  • Write.
  • Add.
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Reflect — Getting the Message Across

5 min

Students reflect on communication.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • What is an I-statement, and why does it help?
  • How can you check you were understood?
  • Complete the exit ticket.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Say it.
  • Say it.
  • Complete the exit ticket.
Standards Alignment

Built to the standards you report on

Aligned to the CASEL Framework for Social and Emotional Learning across its five core competencies.

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Relationship Skills

Communicate clearly and listen actively.

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Relationship Skills

Use I-statements to express needs without blaming.

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Social Awareness

Read whether a message landed as intended.

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Self-Management

Match tone and words to the message.

Differentiation

One lesson, every learner

Multilingual Learners

ELL / EMERGING READERS
  • Message scenario cards.
  • Sentence frame: “I feel ___ when ___ .”
  • Answer one question at a time.

Support & Access

IEP / 504
  • Start with I-statements.
  • Rewrite one blaming message together.
  • Review one idea at a time.

Stretch & Extend

GIFTED / EARLY FINISHERS
  • Role-play a clear conversation.
  • Practice checking understanding aloud.
  • Analyze how tone changed a real mix-up.
Materials

What to gather

  • 📽️Projector / board
  • 🖼️Message scenario cards
  • 💻Communication Check
  • 🗣️An I-statement sheet
  • ✏️Pencils
  • 🎫Exit-ticket slips
Vocabulary

Key terms — hover for a quick definition

communicationsharing a message so it is understoodrelationship skillsthe skills for building strong connectionsI-statementsaying how you feel without blaming, starting with Iactive listeningreally paying attention and checking understandingtonethe feeling behind how something is saidmisunderstandingwhen a message is heard differently than meantclarifyto make a message clearerfeedbackwhat the listener reflects back to you
Evaluate

Exit Ticket

Preview the three formative checks. Tap “Sample answer” to see what mastery looks like — hide them before you print for students.

QUESTION 1
What is an I-statement, and why does it help?
It names your own feeling and the situation, like "I feel left out when...", so you share how you feel without blaming and the other person keeps listening.
QUESTION 2
How can you check that you were understood?
Ask the other person to share what they heard, which catches mix-ups before they grow.
QUESTION 3
Why does tone matter in communication?
The same words can sound kind or harsh depending on tone, so tone is part of the message.

Create: my I-statements.

Have students think of a real situation, write an I-statement for it, and add how they would check they were understood, so clear communication becomes practice. A printable communication worksheet is in the Social-Emotional Learning library.

Study · Flashcards

Study the key terms

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Practice · Quiz

Check your understanding

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Practice · Worksheet

Printable worksheet

A print-and-go review sheet with a built-in answer key. Tap “Show answer key” to reveal answers, or print the clean version for students.

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Part A · Write the word that matches each meaning

Word bank: active listening, clarify, communication, feedback, I-statement, misunderstanding, relationship skills, tone
  1. really paying attention and checking understanding
  2. the feeling behind how something is said
  3. to make a message clearer
  4. what the listener reflects back to you
  5. saying how you feel without blaming, starting with I
  6. when a message is heard differently than meant
  7. sharing a message so it is understood
  8. the skills for building strong connections

Part B · Show what you learned

  1. What is an I-statement, and why does it help?
  2. How can you check that you were understood?
  3. Why does tone matter in communication?
Answer key — Part A: 1) active listening · 2) tone · 3) clarify · 4) feedback · 5) I-statement · 6) misunderstanding · 7) communication · 8) relationship skills
Part B: 1) It names your own feeling and the situation, like "I feel left out when...", so you share how you feel without blaming and the other person keeps listening. 2) Ask the other person to share what they heard, which catches mix-ups before they grow. 3) The same words can sound kind or harsh depending on tone, so tone is part of the message.