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Managing Big Feelings

Seventh graders build self-management by learning to handle big feelings — noticing and naming the feeling, pausing, breathing, and choosing a calm response instead of reacting. Pausing puts you in charge. They order the steps, then plan a calm-down strategy. (If feelings ever feel like too much, talking to a trusted adult or counselor always helps.)

Grade 7Managing Big Feelings40 minutes1 class periodCASELExplicit teaching4 StandardsCASEL
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Lesson at a Glance

Everything you need before the bell rings

Learning Objectives

Students will be able to…

  • ✓Notice & name feelings.
  • ✓Pause before reacting.
  • ✓Use calm-down steps.
  • ✓Choose a response.
Essential Question

How can you stay in charge when a big feeling hits?

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Interactive Task
Put in Order · Interactive

Order the Calm-Down Steps

Project this and have students put the steps for managing a big feeling in order.

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Tap the first step when a big feeling hits!
The Lesson · Explicit teaching

40 minutes, five moves

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1

Check-In — Big Feelings

4 min

When you are really frustrated, what happens if you react right away?

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Pose the question.
  • Share ideas.
  • Set the goal.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Think.
  • Share.
  • Get ready.
2

Learn — Self-Regulation

10 min

Students learn.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Send students to Order the Calm-Down Steps.
  • Order the steps.
  • Note pause before reacting.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Order.
  • Say.
  • Note it.
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Practice — Practice

13 min

Students practice.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Name a feeling.
  • Take 3 slow breaths.
  • Name 2 calm choices.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Name.
  • Breathe.
  • Choose.
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Apply — Apply

9 min

Students apply.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Pick your calm-down strategy.
  • Plan when to use it.
  • Name a trusted adult to talk to.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Pick.
  • Plan.
  • Name.
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Reflect — Reflect

4 min

Students close.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • What do you do first?
  • Why pause?
  • Complete the exit ticket.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Say it.
  • Say it.
  • Complete the exit ticket.
Standards Alignment

Built to the standards you report on

Aligned to the CASEL Framework for Social and Emotional Learning across its five core competencies.

CASEL
Self-Management

Manage emotions and impulses.

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Self-Management

Use stress-management strategies.

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Self-Awareness

Identify and name emotions.

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Responsible Decision-Making

Pause to choose a response.

Differentiation

One lesson, every learner

Multilingual Learners

ELL / EMERGING READERS
  • Calm-down step cards.
  • Frame: "first I notice, then I ___."
  • Practice breathing together.

Support & Access

IEP / 504
  • Use 3 core steps.
  • Practice one breath technique.
  • Use a calm visual.

Stretch & Extend

GIFTED / EARLY FINISHERS
  • Build a personal calm-down kit.
  • Teach a peer the steps.
  • Track triggers & strategies.
Materials

What to gather

  • 📽️Screen / board
  • 🌬️Calm-down cards
  • 💻Order the Calm-Down Steps
  • 🧰Strategy sheet
  • 📓Notebooks
  • 🎫Exit-ticket slips
Vocabulary

Key terms — hover for a quick definition

self-regulationmanaging your feelings & actionsemotiona feelingtriggerwhat sets off a feelingpausestop before reactingcalm-downa way to settle big feelingsresponsewhat you choose to doimpulsea sudden urge to actcopehandle feelings in healthy ways
Evaluate

Exit Ticket

Preview the three formative checks. Tap “Sample answer” to see what mastery looks like — hide them before you print for students.

QUESTION 1
What is the first calm-down step?
Notice the feeling and name it.
QUESTION 2
Why pause before reacting?
It lets you choose a calm, helpful response.
QUESTION 3
Who can help if feelings feel like too much?
A trusted adult or school counselor.

Reflect: managing big feelings.

Have students plan a personal calm-down strategy. A printable strategy sheet is in the SEL library.

Study · Flashcards

Study the key terms

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Practice · Quiz

Check your understanding

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Practice · Worksheet

Printable worksheet

A print-and-go review sheet with a built-in answer key. Tap “Show answer key” to reveal answers, or print the clean version for students.

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Date: ____________

Part A · Write the word that matches each meaning

Word bank: calm-down, cope, emotion, impulse, pause, response, self-regulation, trigger
  1. a feeling
  2. managing your feelings & actions
  3. what you choose to do
  4. a way to settle big feelings
  5. what sets off a feeling
  6. handle feelings in healthy ways
  7. stop before reacting
  8. a sudden urge to act

Part B · Show what you learned

  1. What is the first calm-down step?
  2. Why pause before reacting?
  3. Who can help if feelings feel like too much?
Answer key — Part A: 1) emotion · 2) self-regulation · 3) response · 4) calm-down · 5) trigger · 6) cope · 7) pause · 8) impulse
Part B: 1) Notice the feeling and name it. 2) It lets you choose a calm, helpful response. 3) A trusted adult or school counselor.