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Giving & Receiving Feedback

Eighth graders build relationship skills by giving feedback that helps — specific, kind, and focused on the work — and receiving it without getting defensive. They sort helpful feedback from hurtful, then practice both sides.

Grade 8Giving & Receiving Feedback40 minutes1 class periodCASELExplicit teaching4 StandardsCASEL
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Lesson at a Glance

Everything you need before the bell rings

Learning Objectives

Students will be able to…

  • ✓Give helpful feedback.
  • ✓Tell helpful from hurtful.
  • ✓Receive it without defensiveness.
  • ✓Practice both sides.
Essential Question

How do you give feedback that helps instead of hurts?

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Interactive Task
Sort It · Interactive

Helpful, or Hurtful Feedback?

Project this and sort each into Helpful feedback or Hurtful / unhelpful.

💬 Sort each — helpful feedback, or hurtful?Try it
💚 Helpful feedback
💔 Hurtful / unhelpful
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The Lesson · SEL Flow (Check-In · Learn · Practice · Apply · Reflect)

40 minutes, five moves

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Check-In — Help, Not Hurt

4 min

What makes feedback feel helpful instead of mean?

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Recall helpful feedback.
  • Invite a few.
  • Set the goal.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Think.
  • Share.
  • Get ready.
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Learn — Giving & Receiving Feedback

10 min

Students learn.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Send students to Helpful or Hurtful?
  • Sort each one.
  • Note specific, kind, about the work.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Sort.
  • Say.
  • Note it.
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Practice — Practice

12 min

Students practice.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Turn a harsh line into helpful feedback.
  • Add one thing that is working.
  • Practice saying “thank you” to feedback.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Rewrite.
  • Add.
  • Practice.
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Apply — Apply

10 min

Students apply.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Give a partner helpful feedback.
  • Receive theirs calmly.
  • Name one thing to improve.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Give.
  • Receive.
  • Name.
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Reflect — Reflect

4 min

Students close.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Say what makes feedback helpful.
  • Say how to receive it.
  • Complete the exit ticket.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Say it.
  • Say.
  • Complete the exit ticket.
Standards Alignment

Built to the standards you report on

Aligned to the CASEL Framework for Social and Emotional Learning across its five core competencies.

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Relationship Skills

Give and receive feedback constructively.

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Relationship Skills

Communicate with care and respect.

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Self-Management

Receive feedback without defensiveness.

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Social Awareness

Consider how feedback affects others.

Differentiation

One lesson, every learner

Multilingual Learners

ELL / EMERGING READERS
  • Helpful/hurtful cards.
  • Frame: “try ___; one strength is ___.”
  • Role-play both roles.

Support & Access

IEP / 504
  • Sort helpful vs hurtful only.
  • Use 4 items.
  • Use sentence frames.

Stretch & Extend

GIFTED / EARLY FINISHERS
  • Use a “glow and grow” format.
  • Give feedback on real work.
  • Reflect on receiving it.
Materials

What to gather

  • 📽️Screen / board
  • 💬Feedback cards
  • 💻Helpful or Hurtful?
  • 📝Feedback frames
  • 📓Notebooks
  • 🎫Exit-ticket slips
Vocabulary

Key terms — hover for a quick definition

feedbackinformation to help someone improvespecificclear about exactly what to changeconstructivemeant to help, not tear downdefensivereacting as if attackedglowwhat is working wellgrowwhat to improverespectfulkind and about the workreceivetake in feedback openly
Evaluate

Exit Ticket

Preview the three formative checks. Tap “Sample answer” to see what mastery looks like — hide them before you print for students.

QUESTION 1
What makes feedback helpful?
Specific, kind, and focused on the work — with a way to improve.
QUESTION 2
How do you receive feedback well?
Listen, stay open, and say thank you (not get defensive).
QUESTION 3
Is “you are lazy” helpful feedback?
No — it attacks the person and gives no way to improve.

Reflect: giving & receiving feedback.

Have students rewrite one harsh comment into helpful feedback. A printable feedback worksheet is in the SEL library.

Study · Flashcards

Study the key terms

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Practice · Quiz

Check your understanding

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Practice · Worksheet

Printable worksheet

A print-and-go review sheet with a built-in answer key. Tap “Show answer key” to reveal answers, or print the clean version for students.

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Name: ________________________
Date: ____________

Part A · Write the word that matches each meaning

Word bank: constructive, defensive, feedback, glow, grow, receive, respectful, specific
  1. what to improve
  2. clear about exactly what to change
  3. meant to help, not tear down
  4. what is working well
  5. kind and about the work
  6. reacting as if attacked
  7. information to help someone improve
  8. take in feedback openly

Part B · Show what you learned

  1. What makes feedback helpful?
  2. How do you receive feedback well?
  3. Is “you are lazy” helpful feedback?
Answer key — Part A: 1) grow · 2) specific · 3) constructive · 4) glow · 5) respectful · 6) defensive · 7) feedback · 8) receive
Part B: 1) Specific, kind, and focused on the work — with a way to improve. 2) Listen, stay open, and say thank you (not get defensive). 3) No — it attacks the person and gives no way to improve.